Dishes and Laundry are like thoughts, they never stop or go away!
The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Can we treat the dishes like an honourable guest?
The more I resist the normal household duties, the more heaviness and inertia come in.
Oh, I think I’ll just go and have a nap rather than do the dishes for example. But this doesn’t make the dishes go away, which is what something inside thinks it wants. It just makes the resistance/suffering grow bigger. Just like the pile of dishes that grows every day of not dealing with them! Just as everything we try and hide from inside grows bigger and will continue to influence us consciously or not…… until we stop, take notice and let BE.
If the dishes for example can be done or not done in the space of a 5 year old playing with bubbles and the miraculousness of IT all……noticing the energy of joy that underneath in the clean dishes or dirty…..or I could put it this way……let a ‘doing’ without the sticking to the ‘thinking commentary in the head happen…..or let a ‘doing’ without believing the continuous commentary in the head……
What do you think…..is that enlightenment? hohohohoho
My sadhana (spiritual practice) often is to notice the resistance to the dishes , drop into it physically in the body, feel the energy inside and get to know what it is all about. Let IT inform me. The part (or habit or movement of energy) that has been addicted to pain and suffering loves the resistance and attempts to keep it going by letting the pile grow bigger.
If i stop and notice…. what is not resisting the dishes? Hang out in THAT!
I’ve noticed if I do the dishes with something inside sticking to the thinking thoughts that are usually judgements, or wishing to be somewhere else kind of feel = suffering.
If I simply do the dishes then all is ok. It is like the ‘me’ isn’t’ doing them. If the ‘me’ commenting is in the driving seat, then the energy of resistance or suffering enters in.
If i wait until the energy comes to do them rather than forcing the issue….than all is ok. Even feeling the resistance is ok. Can’t even resist the resistance as it is often HERE.
I’ve discovered that if I do the dishes when the energy is simply present to do them… it is different than believing that I have to do them right now….
There appears to be kind of a free feeling inside, when i am not stuck in the resistance of dishes, dinner, laundry etc. Believe it or not when doing the household duties lately, I’ve noticed a real laughing space of peace – . Can’t say always… but moments are peeking through more often. When there are no distractions it becomes like a meditation. Meditation on dishes or no dishes! Is there any difference?
And then….. not even labeling dishes, negative feelings, patterns as distractions, or bad…just what is arising…
For me the important thing seems to be to STOP and NOTICE! Do I want to live with suffering/resisting inside driving every living moment of life or freedom in the driving seat? WOW!!!
Thoughts/feelings/patterns come up and can be noticed without the ‘stickiness’ more of a ‘oh what is this’ or ‘here you are again’ as Rumi said in his exquisite poem. They pass through or get stuck like a huge pile of dishes that grows and the more the ‘I’ takes ownership, the more pain…..
yahoo! the sink is clean today!
off to learn how to downhill ski …ahahahah theres an interesting place to see fears emerge – as i’m screaming down the hill in snowplow!!